On abortion and being brave

Cradle My Heart Radio  welcomes Carla Stream

A young woman went online to announce her plans to abort her Little Thing. As her open letter went viral, she is being lauded for her “brave” expression of love towards her child.

No schoolyard bully was ever granted such willing bystanders as abortioneers have in pro-choice feminists.

But abortion isn’t brave.


Abortion makes many women cowards. Simply put, a coward puts herself before others as she protects herself at their expense. The reddit writer acknowledges that she is taking a life, yet justfies that decision with words about not being ready to parent, and some dangerously inept and corrupt theology about reincarnation. Even sadder than the tragic confusion of the pregnant woman are the people online blessing her decision, and asking God to bless her for it.

Cowardice was at the heart of my abortion choice. I feared for my future and my reputation. Not everyone is like me. Many women bravely faced down parents or partners who forced abortion on them. Even if they didn’t prevail in protecting their unborn child, they did their best. They were heroicly brave–putting the life of another before their own. But research supports the fact that by a three-fourths majority women choose abortion for self-centered economic reasons: not wanting to disrupt education or jobs, or fearing an inability to afford raising a child. What women need in such circumstances is not abortion, but social support. Abortioneers traffic in our fears.

Please understand, I don’t condemn a coward who is open to correction.Through honest self-examination and submitting to God, our hearts can change. Speaking the truth about abortion was the beginning of my being brave. I became willing to risk my (false) reputation. I’d reached the point where as Cec Murphey put it, “I would rather be disliked for who I am than admired for who I am not.”

And the truth is this: yes, I lacked support, but I was the last line of defense for my child who had been sentenced to death. I chose my own life instead. In a moment like that, God is under no obligation to bless my choice. Instead, God warned that there are times we bring curses on ourselves with our choices.

Today I am forgiven and restored. “By God’s grace I am what I am.” And I’m not who I was. There is hope for everyone. But we presume on God’s mercy when we ask him to forgive us before we sin. And we lead others astray when we invoke God’s blessing on something He cannot condone. Is God under an obligation to grant a request that goes against his own heart?

I want to talk this over with you and with Carla Stream this weekend. It is always bracingly disarming to meet someone who is equally repentant over wrongdoing while remaining fiercely strong concerning her right to express her story on her own terms. That’s what happens when we become brave in faith.


Carla Stream

Carla Stream is such a woman.

She shares her story of child loss due to both abortion and miscarriage, and how she is overcoming that grief. Carla is a prolife speaker, blogger and former blog moderator. The wild west world of blogging discourse, cloaked in anonymity and often soaked in oppositional vitriol, benefitted greatly from Carla’s faith and steady hand.

Carla will join us this week on Cradle My Heart Radio to share her story of finding peace after abortion–and being in the thick of the battle for hearts and minds in the prolife blogosphere.

From Carla’s bio:

Carla Stream is a prolife speaker who tells the story of her abortion experience and forgiveness in Christ. She refutes the lies of the abortion industry with the truth of her experience and leads others to the forgiveness she has found. God has given her this platform for her good and His Glory. The Lord continues to redeem her pain; there are 3 baby girls (that she knows of) that are alive today because she told her story. Carla shares her experience so that others know there isn’t ANYONE that is beyond the saving grace of Jesus. No matter what someone has done God can and will rescue, restore and redeem. There is joy in sharing with others what she has learned!

Carla served as moderator for Jill Stanek’s prolife blog for six years and she currently represents Operation Outcry Wisconsin and writes her own blog at Four by 40.

You’re invited to call in during the show to ask a question or make a comment on the air. The toll free number to call is 800-811-3003. If you would prefer to ask a question by email write to me at kim@kimketola.com before air time. Please let me know if you prefer to remain anonymous or receive an answer off-the-air.

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Join us for inspiration from Carla Stream on Cradle My Heart Radio with Kim Ketola on October 19 at 9 pm ET.

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